Water Finds It's Own Level

   You have heard that water finds it's own level but many people do not understand it's meaning.  It's meaning is very relevant to any discussion on attraction or perception.  Like attracts like right?  here's another one; you can't soar with eagles if you hang with turkeys.  And the ever popular; your are judged by the company you keep.  Now let's add in one more; if you insist on playing in the dirt you will get dirty.  If you are someone who reads the bible it will tell that merely thinking about committing a sin is sin itself.  the theory is that if you contemplate something long enough it will become more acceptable, less daunting and will in time, come to fruition.  The message is perfectly clear and coming at you in many directions.  It is absolutely essential that you avoid people and situation that do not enhance the experience of your life.  You cannot not be with addicted people or dishonest people and believe you can remain unscathed by them and their actions.  If you surround yourself with people that do not support your beliefs or values they will bring you down.  If you choose a relationship with someone and you love on different levels share different goal and you do not hold the same perception of loyalty it will fail and you will be hurt.

  Let your inner voice double as a mirror to locate like souls and you find love and success, joy is an attachment of yoking yourself with the right people.  It mentions that in the bible as well.  Do you suppose a christian woman would find happiness with a non believing man who ran with a crowd that drank and gambled?  Do you suppose she would find great pain and wonder why has she been forsaken in this love.  She was not forsaken she used her free will to choose wrong.  We do this all the time.   

  Choose wisely in your relationships.  Associate with peoploe who support your beliefs and value.  Do not associate with someone who acts in a way that is not in line with how you disire your life to be decorated.  You can love many people in many ways for many reasons but in the end if your end result desires are not in line the outcome is not going to be one of joy.  You must choose joy.  it is choice that is made when you choose wisely and when an aligment does not feel right do not let it take presidence.  Don't ignore the red flags. We always see them but we somehow believe they will change color, but they don't.  why make your journey more difficult by choosing associations that are not blended and headed the same way.  It's al about choices, choose wisely. 

  When you become connected with kindred spirits the relationship and the growth and the happiness even minor discord are easily and naturally experienced.  Choose joy.....

 

elle   

The Little Things....

  Why can't we just be content?  Why do we expect everyday to be like swimming in a chocolate river, before the limo ride to the circus and returning home by swinging on a star?  It's because we are so over stimulated by the ridiculousness we see and hear everyday that an ordinary day is not ordinary it's bad! A day that is peaceful and calm and safe is an amazing day.  Everyone you love is safe and at peace.  Maybe you found and extra half an hour to read with a cup of tea or call a friend you haven't seen.

  What about being thankful and happy that you had great weather for your commute.  Imagine being absolutely joyful that your day went of off without a hitch, that's it.  No band, no lottery win just a day that you accomplished things that needed to be done and you were able to do them and your world was peaceful. 

  This isn't about lowering your expectations.  This is about assigning happiness to so many more things in your life that have gotten a bad rap for no reason at all. Why can't I look forward to food shopping?  What about being excited to go to work; knowing that I am earning the money I need to take care of my family.  What if you were looking forward to a day doing the yard work you need to do to make your home worth a second look, fresh air, exercise.  Bonus, bonus.  If we found more joy in ordinary things maybe we wouldn't be so let down by the big things, the treats.  It seems to me that this is why New Years eve is always a disappointment and most vacations don't live up to to our bloated and distorted expectations.

  Change your perception.  Be happy with more of what is not what isn't!

 

elle  

More, More, More......

    It's all about love.  Love of anything emits the strongest emotions, even stronger than hate.  Gratitude is the constant profession of love.  Add love to absolutely any situation and it makes it better.  Any conflict of any size with anybody no matter the circumstances can be made better with love.  How, might be your question, how do you get to a place of love?  With gratitude; practice daily, hourly, minute by minute and an evolution starts to happen.  You cannot possibly practice gratitude constantly and not come ever closer to love than anger or jealousy or revenge or any other negative emotion. 
  The thing is; love given comes back, bigger.  You send send it out and is gains strength like a hurricane that has stalled.  When it returns it envelops you. When you feel bad, you have bed head, sweat pants with lint, you know the kind of day I am talking about, it is not chocolate that will lift you although it's not a bad attempt. 
  Take a shower.  While your in there start thinking about what you love.  Then be thankful for having received these things you love.  Focus on everything that makes you feel good.  Elevate to a better place.  Don't think about bloat or weight gain or ants that want in.  Ignore the green pool, the broken door and empty bag of oreos.   There will always be kids that won't listen and a cat that waits for you to lay out your clothes to take a nap.  Your family may ignore you all day until you begin to do something for yourself.  Then it's an emergency, right?  They need you!  But it's ok, it really is.  Breathe and put a smile on your face.  Focus on the love you feel for them to alleviate the frustration that creeps in when you are not looking.  I wonder why we accept and wallow in despair and frustration so easy, which feels terrible but we feel like treating the emotional ailment with love is so far fetched? What do you do to turn around a bad day??  

elle                   

Offense....Defense, No Sense

  Everyone is offended and on the defense, it's as if it's fashionable.  If you are not outraged and offended something is wrong.  All about me...oh yeah, that's where we are.  You can't think of anything except how this or that effects you.  That is not how it is supposed to be; I'm telling you this is not the road to happiness.  When you are very self involved it creates entitlement which festers self indulgence followed by greed and resentment.  Not a recipe for joy.  Gratitude for everything and everyone will encourage tolerance and keep thinking not just about yourself but about other around you.

  We have become a nation of babied, entitled brats.  During the depression times were tough and people struggled and suffered but they also banded to together.  They survived in groups and families. Everyone contributing for the greater good.  There was sharing, oh yes they did!  Now everyone gets a trophy just for participating and children don't have to compete or have their feelings hurt.  Life isn't fair but it also isn't bad.  We need to have a tougher skin and stop be offended over everything.  We can't say anything about religion or sex or age or money or politics because someone may become offended, wah, wah, wah.  The time we spend on defense fending offense is wasted. 

  I'm not suggesting that people anyone can completely verbally assassinate you and it's fine.  I'm saying that this country was founded by hardworking rugged diverse people who were free to speak there mind.  Not a bunch of cry babies that have an emotional breakdown if someone says something we don't like.  "I wasn't included", "I don't think she paid enough attention to me", "It was two whole days before they called me back and I had to wait", "My thank you card was so long in coming and wasn't very personal".  Just stop.  You don't need to be stroked like a cat.  Tend your garden, be thankful!!!! When you are thankful you are full not empty and needy and wait for someone, everyone to kiss it and make it better.  Drop and give me fifty, right now come up with fifty positve things and then tell me what difference it makes if a thank you card is late or if it comes at all.  Manners are great, but really did you give just for the praise and thank you or to extend love? 

  When you give love or with love you get love. When you only give or do for with expectation and need you will come up empty and no one can fill that cup I hate to tell you.  When you are full of need you are a grand canyon of desperation.  What do you suppose that attracts??  Give because it's good to give.  Help because it's the right thing to do.  Take and be thankful for everything that comes your way and stop looking to take offense.  Nothing can offend you unles you let it.  Offense implies you are a victim.  You aren't a victim, you have unlimited capacity for happiness, take that not offense!

 

elle        

Forgiveness Instead Of Anger...

  Forgiveness is the release valve.  When you cannot forgive you are only hurting yourself.  After all if someone has hurt or angered you intentionally and you fester with anger and let it rock your world then you are giving them what they want and you are giving them control.  If it was not intentional then you are wasting your time be angry and upset, all twisted in knots about something they are likely not to be aware of!  

  If you really think about it someone who hurts you intentionally over and over does not belong in your life, never mind your main focus.  And when you rage over someone or something they did you are giving them the floor, silly fool!  We hurt people love sometime let it go! Don't be offended.  I am dedicating a post to that this week because it is so important.  Honestly, most of the time when someone pisses you off they did not mean it. Their perception of the situation or your lack of information or maybe their lack of information has created a misunderstanding that put someone in the position of being hurt or angry. 

  Anger is so debilitating it paralyzes you and distorts your thinking. It raises your blood pressure and screws up your digestion.  It lowers your sex drive and causes pimples and weight gain.  Who or what is that important?!  Let it go....  Sometimes you just have to say "F**k it", you know?  It's up to you what you place priorty and importance on.  

  Get busy, work out, go for a walk, have sex, clean out that nasty closet...read a damn book! be thankful for everything you have.  There's a focal point, not the jerk you work with or your phycotic neighbor!  Hey, my teeth are white, my hair looks great, I make the best brownies around and today no one was hired to piss me off because I decided!

 

elle  

Green Eyed Monster

   Be ever so careful of the monster.  Green eyed or otherwise.  Jealousy, envy and resentment are by far the most lethal to your joy and abundance.  Be aware of how you respond emotionally, honestly inside the secret place where feelings come from, to things, events, gains and losses of those around you.  If you feel jealousy or anger when something good happens to someone else, you attatched negativity to those events happening to them and also to yourself.  Soooo, you have made a mark. winning the lottery is bad, getting a promotion, is bad, finding a great house in a great neighborhood, horrible!  When it happened to someone else these were your feelings so there you go!  Feel joy about good things happening; no matter to whom it may be.  

  Feel good when others prosper!  If you realize that your happy response, a true feeling of "good for you!"  This will put you on the the same frequency as those who have received any kind of good fortune.  If you dislike someone and something bad should occur in their life and you may say "oh, I am so sorry to hear that, it's to bad!"  While inside you're green monster is doing a river dance and making you feel so good about something bad happening, get it?  You are attracting negative events to your life.  You gave such joyful, soulful feelings of joy to a negative event!

  The things that you have positive feelings about, you will attract.  Remember that.  If you want to be on the winning side of anything you have to be on that team. You have to be on that frequency.  Seek people out who may have already attained the things you wish to create in your life and feel for their happiness as though it were your own! 

  It's all about the feelings.  Our emotions have the power to create, keep them on a tight leash.  The way you train yourself to do this is to ask yourself a question...."Is the feeling I have about this situation putting me on the same channel to receive it or avoid it?  What do you what to happen?  Decide soon.  I will tell you this, if you feel envy you obviously want it and you are pushing it away when you attach a negative emotion to someone else receiving it. So, with much love I say "knock it off."  Love is the fly paper of good things, not resentment.  If you see an acquaintance  who ahs put on a few pounds and you feel good about her back fat, get ready to roll! 

 

elle

 

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Walk It Off ...

   There is nothing like a power walk.  It's even better with a friend. Yesterday I walked with my friend, I'll call her Sara for the sake of the story, it's also her name. Anyway I feel great when I walk but I feel like I can go further and faster with a partner. Sara and I are particularly good walking partners because she one of the few who can walk faster than I do and she witches at me if I don't wear sneakers.  I hate sneakers.  I love flip flops.  Clearly, I know a power walk in flip flops is a mistake, I don't care I hate sneakers.  Anyway, if people have auras and I'm told they do, and I could see them, which I don't, I'm guessing Saras' would look a little like fourth of July fireworks.  Lots of color, lots of action.  She has a fiery personality that I enjoy.  She and I are both passionate about our families and try to be our best selves.  As far as I can see, the  only thing we really disagree on is some aspects of religion and sneakers.  Oddly, we are very much on the same plain with many differences.  My husband is a blue collar worker, hers white. My youngest child is thirteen hers is five.  I am fifteen years older but she in a grandmother, I am not.  I get a kick out of her.  

  Here is my dilemma.  We walk and rant, yup that's what we do.  The thing is it feels great, the walking and the ranting.  It's harmless we don't bad mouth anyone and have a good cop, bad cop thing going.  We pull each other up by the boot straps depending on whoever is is in a downward spin that day.  

  The ranting is mostly about frustration, you know, trying to make it all work, finding balance.  I think that venting is a good thing.  But I worry that when we are ranting we are attracting more of the things that frustrate, consume time and shake rattle and roll our nerves. 

  If you have an issue, say, with a child and you continuously talk about the problem with the child then the theory is you are keeping yourself on the frequency of having problems with that child.  You are supposed to discuss the things you love about that child instead. Give the love you have for them your eye not the problem. But that eliminates the ability to blow off steam.  So here's the question if I'm only thinking about, talking about the things I love concerning that child then maybe I feel better and don't need to vent.  But then I worry about denial.  I don't want to stick my head in the sand either.  Can you address, deal, cope and handle without venting.  If gratitude is my best tool is it my only tool?

 

elle