Tend Your Own Garden

  When you are very busy in our own garden it shows.  It's beautiful and your not in anyone elses garden.  I wouldn't say that the more self obsessed you are the better off you are.  This is not a plug for narcissism.  Just try to stay in your own emotional yard.  When someone needs you, asks for help or imput of course you would be there.  But it makes life so much easier if you do photoshop yourself into other peoples situations. 
  You need to practice to constanly monitor your focus and your emotions.  If you feeling bad, then you are on a bad frequency.  So even when a negative situation prevails you find a way to change your focus to another perception of that situation or find an entirely different topic to focus to produce good feelings.  Those god feelings even if other thoughts brought them to existence will put you in a better place  and put you on track to to attract more things that warrent those feelings.
  Do not allow the drama of others to get your eye or you will be lowered to that plain and attaract like situations.  Your children need these skills, teach them. If they are taught that thier thoughts effect their life and the situtations they find themselves in then they will handle things differently and feel more in control.  They will be less inclined to be afraid to take full responsibility for themselves.
  It may not be easy but it works, and it works everytime.  Tend your own garden.

elle

Water Finds It's Own Level

   You have heard that water finds it's own level but many people do not understand it's meaning.  It's meaning is very relevant to any discussion on attraction or perception.  Like attracts like right?  here's another one; you can't soar with eagles if you hang with turkeys.  And the ever popular; your are judged by the company you keep.  Now let's add in one more; if you insist on playing in the dirt you will get dirty.  If you are someone who reads the bible it will tell that merely thinking about committing a sin is sin itself.  the theory is that if you contemplate something long enough it will become more acceptable, less daunting and will in time, come to fruition.  The message is perfectly clear and coming at you in many directions.  It is absolutely essential that you avoid people and situation that do not enhance the experience of your life.  You cannot not be with addicted people or dishonest people and believe you can remain unscathed by them and their actions.  If you surround yourself with people that do not support your beliefs or values they will bring you down.  If you choose a relationship with someone and you love on different levels share different goal and you do not hold the same perception of loyalty it will fail and you will be hurt.

  Let your inner voice double as a mirror to locate like souls and you find love and success, joy is an attachment of yoking yourself with the right people.  It mentions that in the bible as well.  Do you suppose a christian woman would find happiness with a non believing man who ran with a crowd that drank and gambled?  Do you suppose she would find great pain and wonder why has she been forsaken in this love.  She was not forsaken she used her free will to choose wrong.  We do this all the time.   

  Choose wisely in your relationships.  Associate with peoploe who support your beliefs and value.  Do not associate with someone who acts in a way that is not in line with how you disire your life to be decorated.  You can love many people in many ways for many reasons but in the end if your end result desires are not in line the outcome is not going to be one of joy.  You must choose joy.  it is choice that is made when you choose wisely and when an aligment does not feel right do not let it take presidence.  Don't ignore the red flags. We always see them but we somehow believe they will change color, but they don't.  why make your journey more difficult by choosing associations that are not blended and headed the same way.  It's al about choices, choose wisely. 

  When you become connected with kindred spirits the relationship and the growth and the happiness even minor discord are easily and naturally experienced.  Choose joy.....

 

elle   

Forgiveness Instead Of Anger...

  Forgiveness is the release valve.  When you cannot forgive you are only hurting yourself.  After all if someone has hurt or angered you intentionally and you fester with anger and let it rock your world then you are giving them what they want and you are giving them control.  If it was not intentional then you are wasting your time be angry and upset, all twisted in knots about something they are likely not to be aware of!  

  If you really think about it someone who hurts you intentionally over and over does not belong in your life, never mind your main focus.  And when you rage over someone or something they did you are giving them the floor, silly fool!  We hurt people love sometime let it go! Don't be offended.  I am dedicating a post to that this week because it is so important.  Honestly, most of the time when someone pisses you off they did not mean it. Their perception of the situation or your lack of information or maybe their lack of information has created a misunderstanding that put someone in the position of being hurt or angry. 

  Anger is so debilitating it paralyzes you and distorts your thinking. It raises your blood pressure and screws up your digestion.  It lowers your sex drive and causes pimples and weight gain.  Who or what is that important?!  Let it go....  Sometimes you just have to say "F**k it", you know?  It's up to you what you place priorty and importance on.  

  Get busy, work out, go for a walk, have sex, clean out that nasty closet...read a damn book! be thankful for everything you have.  There's a focal point, not the jerk you work with or your phycotic neighbor!  Hey, my teeth are white, my hair looks great, I make the best brownies around and today no one was hired to piss me off because I decided!

 

elle