Water Finds It's Own Level

   You have heard that water finds it's own level but many people do not understand it's meaning.  It's meaning is very relevant to any discussion on attraction or perception.  Like attracts like right?  here's another one; you can't soar with eagles if you hang with turkeys.  And the ever popular; your are judged by the company you keep.  Now let's add in one more; if you insist on playing in the dirt you will get dirty.  If you are someone who reads the bible it will tell that merely thinking about committing a sin is sin itself.  the theory is that if you contemplate something long enough it will become more acceptable, less daunting and will in time, come to fruition.  The message is perfectly clear and coming at you in many directions.  It is absolutely essential that you avoid people and situation that do not enhance the experience of your life.  You cannot not be with addicted people or dishonest people and believe you can remain unscathed by them and their actions.  If you surround yourself with people that do not support your beliefs or values they will bring you down.  If you choose a relationship with someone and you love on different levels share different goal and you do not hold the same perception of loyalty it will fail and you will be hurt.

  Let your inner voice double as a mirror to locate like souls and you find love and success, joy is an attachment of yoking yourself with the right people.  It mentions that in the bible as well.  Do you suppose a christian woman would find happiness with a non believing man who ran with a crowd that drank and gambled?  Do you suppose she would find great pain and wonder why has she been forsaken in this love.  She was not forsaken she used her free will to choose wrong.  We do this all the time.   

  Choose wisely in your relationships.  Associate with peoploe who support your beliefs and value.  Do not associate with someone who acts in a way that is not in line with how you disire your life to be decorated.  You can love many people in many ways for many reasons but in the end if your end result desires are not in line the outcome is not going to be one of joy.  You must choose joy.  it is choice that is made when you choose wisely and when an aligment does not feel right do not let it take presidence.  Don't ignore the red flags. We always see them but we somehow believe they will change color, but they don't.  why make your journey more difficult by choosing associations that are not blended and headed the same way.  It's al about choices, choose wisely. 

  When you become connected with kindred spirits the relationship and the growth and the happiness even minor discord are easily and naturally experienced.  Choose joy.....

 

elle   

Offense....Defense, No Sense

  Everyone is offended and on the defense, it's as if it's fashionable.  If you are not outraged and offended something is wrong.  All about me...oh yeah, that's where we are.  You can't think of anything except how this or that effects you.  That is not how it is supposed to be; I'm telling you this is not the road to happiness.  When you are very self involved it creates entitlement which festers self indulgence followed by greed and resentment.  Not a recipe for joy.  Gratitude for everything and everyone will encourage tolerance and keep thinking not just about yourself but about other around you.

  We have become a nation of babied, entitled brats.  During the depression times were tough and people struggled and suffered but they also banded to together.  They survived in groups and families. Everyone contributing for the greater good.  There was sharing, oh yes they did!  Now everyone gets a trophy just for participating and children don't have to compete or have their feelings hurt.  Life isn't fair but it also isn't bad.  We need to have a tougher skin and stop be offended over everything.  We can't say anything about religion or sex or age or money or politics because someone may become offended, wah, wah, wah.  The time we spend on defense fending offense is wasted. 

  I'm not suggesting that people anyone can completely verbally assassinate you and it's fine.  I'm saying that this country was founded by hardworking rugged diverse people who were free to speak there mind.  Not a bunch of cry babies that have an emotional breakdown if someone says something we don't like.  "I wasn't included", "I don't think she paid enough attention to me", "It was two whole days before they called me back and I had to wait", "My thank you card was so long in coming and wasn't very personal".  Just stop.  You don't need to be stroked like a cat.  Tend your garden, be thankful!!!! When you are thankful you are full not empty and needy and wait for someone, everyone to kiss it and make it better.  Drop and give me fifty, right now come up with fifty positve things and then tell me what difference it makes if a thank you card is late or if it comes at all.  Manners are great, but really did you give just for the praise and thank you or to extend love? 

  When you give love or with love you get love. When you only give or do for with expectation and need you will come up empty and no one can fill that cup I hate to tell you.  When you are full of need you are a grand canyon of desperation.  What do you suppose that attracts??  Give because it's good to give.  Help because it's the right thing to do.  Take and be thankful for everything that comes your way and stop looking to take offense.  Nothing can offend you unles you let it.  Offense implies you are a victim.  You aren't a victim, you have unlimited capacity for happiness, take that not offense!

 

elle        

Murphys Law.....

  If you don't know Murphy's Law, google it...I know it, but I don't want to say it, much less write on a post that would then carry the stain of it.  But I think you know it and I know that as positive as we may try to be there are just some times that negativity oozes in.  Leaving you wonder how it got in!  Somewhere there is a crack or a doubt.  Maybe your thoughts are positive but your not fully believing them and as such are not feeling the joy that should come with the commitment to those thoughts or maybe your being tested.
   I have been tested lately. Two things have happened that I hoped would not.  So the question is; was the hoping it wouldn't happen instead of believing it wouldn't happen provide the crack, the way in? I think so.  My bad....put down the tea , I mean wine or Cosmo. These make things worse not better. Take a nice long walk (this more than fifty feet, just saying).  Find that something good...I find it!  Smile too, even if it feels like it doesn't belong just do it.  YOU'LL FEEL AN IMMEDIATE LIFT.  Believe this set back is temporary and find the silver lining and focus on that.  Imagine the BEST case scenario and focus there.  Feel the good emotions that come from a foreseen great outcome and believe. No crack this time, no panic, no what if. Say " I am Happy" "I am ok, this is a set back that is manageable and I am committing my thoughts to the good things that will come from this.
  How do handle it when you feel you have done all the right things to be on a frequency good and uplifting things and yet something sneaks in???  Please share any uplifting processes that you find work for you....Everything is going to be ok....

elle

Fear.....

  There is nothing worse than being afraid!  Your spine tingles and your stomach becomes a pit. Your mouth is dry and you cannot not focus.  Intense fear can be almost be an out of body experience.  If you have read my other posts you must be thinking that this is off topic for me, but it isn't.
  I believe in all the things I have said, I honestly do. But if I'm being honest there is still fear.  Gratitude is a huge help but let's face it, fear is like a mouse it gets in where it wants to, it's hard to get rid and leaves little pieces of  **** around to let you know it's there.  The things that scare the hell out of us, where do they come from??  Phobia based fears I think, are like parasites that attach to us as we grow.  It's something in how we are raised or some seed out parents planted that has come to grow. 
  But it's the other kind of fear, like fear of death, growing old, disease, loss, aging, poverty.  What do you do with that mess? First and most important is to force yourself to focus and quickly and on something good, anything good.  Oreos, that works for me. Shift off the fear channel as fast as you can. Now start the gratitude and don't stop until the fear subsides.  It can and will return but each time do the same thing.  "Fear not..."  Easier said than done.  The truth is that 70% of the daily things that come up and cause everything from fear to concern never come to pass or turn out to be a blessing in disguise.  The things that do turn are often not as bad as we think.  All I can say stick to the things we have already talked about.  Find something good to focus on.  Focus hard enough to bring the emotion of happiness or at the very least I will settle for calm and so you raise yourself to a more positive plain, use gratitude to stay there.  Imagine and believe that things just have a way of working out for you.  It's just your lot in life to fall in a pile of crap and rise up out of it smelling like a rose.  It works, it really does.....

Meditation Update:  OK, it's not going so well.  If the things I need to do life better are love, gratitude, positive thinking, random acts of kindness and meditation than 4 out of 5 aren't sooo bad.  I'm not giving up I just can't quiet my mind!   My thoughts are like a news reel loop and is pisses me off!  Even positive thoughts are noisy.  Maybe I will just take a break from trying to meditate for awhile it's not going to work if I'm mad at it........ elle

Believe It's Possible

Believe.....You can say whatever you want but it's what you believe that counts.  That's why placebos work and why delusion festers in many of us like a like an unclean sore.  It's why addiction is rampart.  It's why we stay in relationships that just don't work.  So the bad beliefs we hold are super successful and so we  get stuck in ruts that really are not to deep to climb out.  If we would only believe we could.  Sooo why are the good beliefs and the ones that make us strong and successful so elusive?  They are out there, I know there are people with huge odds stacked against them that can persevere.  If you realize that there are literally millions of events happening simultaneously in this world that could impact you in as many ways without a moments notice you have to see that anything is possible....anything. It is said that the definition of insanity is continuing to do the same thing and expect a different outcome.  You have to change the way you think to change the way you feel so that your beliefs and feeling are on the same plain. So believe. Believe hard. Believe with feeling.... But most importantly believe with conviction and absolute joy!

elle

  

Woman & Gratitude

Day One..Life Log ...


  Just like you I'm trying to get it right, tweak it here, adjust there.  I'm in search of joy, I want to capture it and keep it, for a while.  I hope to be in such a surplus I will exude it and flow back to me in way I could never dream of. 
  It can be so elusive don't you think?  You have to be vigilantand tireless in pursuit.  Consistant in your mind set; ever redirecting.
  I know gratitude works, saying thank you every day for everything good or bad works.  I know that your beliefs are what decorate your life and circumstances.  The things you believe down deep will trump any positve affirmation if it contradicts what really truly believe inside.  In the following posts I will talk about some things I want to share with you that might help you as you try to get right.  I will log things I try and hopefully I'll hear from you.  I am serious about this journey.  I will not let this become the tread mill covered in clothes!  I learned I could choose to be happy when I used to choose to spend the first part of the day cooking, cleaning, ironing, vacuuming chauffeuring my kids, and the second half complaining about it.  I don't have to do it anymore and neither do you.  You can over time think differntly and change your perception.  Your perception will shift your beliefs.....

elle