Tend Your Own Garden

  When you are very busy in our own garden it shows.  It's beautiful and your not in anyone elses garden.  I wouldn't say that the more self obsessed you are the better off you are.  This is not a plug for narcissism.  Just try to stay in your own emotional yard.  When someone needs you, asks for help or imput of course you would be there.  But it makes life so much easier if you do photoshop yourself into other peoples situations. 
  You need to practice to constanly monitor your focus and your emotions.  If you feeling bad, then you are on a bad frequency.  So even when a negative situation prevails you find a way to change your focus to another perception of that situation or find an entirely different topic to focus to produce good feelings.  Those god feelings even if other thoughts brought them to existence will put you in a better place  and put you on track to to attract more things that warrent those feelings.
  Do not allow the drama of others to get your eye or you will be lowered to that plain and attaract like situations.  Your children need these skills, teach them. If they are taught that thier thoughts effect their life and the situtations they find themselves in then they will handle things differently and feel more in control.  They will be less inclined to be afraid to take full responsibility for themselves.
  It may not be easy but it works, and it works everytime.  Tend your own garden.

elle

The Little Things....

  Why can't we just be content?  Why do we expect everyday to be like swimming in a chocolate river, before the limo ride to the circus and returning home by swinging on a star?  It's because we are so over stimulated by the ridiculousness we see and hear everyday that an ordinary day is not ordinary it's bad! A day that is peaceful and calm and safe is an amazing day.  Everyone you love is safe and at peace.  Maybe you found and extra half an hour to read with a cup of tea or call a friend you haven't seen.

  What about being thankful and happy that you had great weather for your commute.  Imagine being absolutely joyful that your day went of off without a hitch, that's it.  No band, no lottery win just a day that you accomplished things that needed to be done and you were able to do them and your world was peaceful. 

  This isn't about lowering your expectations.  This is about assigning happiness to so many more things in your life that have gotten a bad rap for no reason at all. Why can't I look forward to food shopping?  What about being excited to go to work; knowing that I am earning the money I need to take care of my family.  What if you were looking forward to a day doing the yard work you need to do to make your home worth a second look, fresh air, exercise.  Bonus, bonus.  If we found more joy in ordinary things maybe we wouldn't be so let down by the big things, the treats.  It seems to me that this is why New Years eve is always a disappointment and most vacations don't live up to to our bloated and distorted expectations.

  Change your perception.  Be happy with more of what is not what isn't!

 

elle  

Woman & Gratitude

Day One..Life Log ...


  Just like you I'm trying to get it right, tweak it here, adjust there.  I'm in search of joy, I want to capture it and keep it, for a while.  I hope to be in such a surplus I will exude it and flow back to me in way I could never dream of. 
  It can be so elusive don't you think?  You have to be vigilantand tireless in pursuit.  Consistant in your mind set; ever redirecting.
  I know gratitude works, saying thank you every day for everything good or bad works.  I know that your beliefs are what decorate your life and circumstances.  The things you believe down deep will trump any positve affirmation if it contradicts what really truly believe inside.  In the following posts I will talk about some things I want to share with you that might help you as you try to get right.  I will log things I try and hopefully I'll hear from you.  I am serious about this journey.  I will not let this become the tread mill covered in clothes!  I learned I could choose to be happy when I used to choose to spend the first part of the day cooking, cleaning, ironing, vacuuming chauffeuring my kids, and the second half complaining about it.  I don't have to do it anymore and neither do you.  You can over time think differntly and change your perception.  Your perception will shift your beliefs.....

elle