Offense....Defense, No Sense

  Everyone is offended and on the defense, it's as if it's fashionable.  If you are not outraged and offended something is wrong.  All about me...oh yeah, that's where we are.  You can't think of anything except how this or that effects you.  That is not how it is supposed to be; I'm telling you this is not the road to happiness.  When you are very self involved it creates entitlement which festers self indulgence followed by greed and resentment.  Not a recipe for joy.  Gratitude for everything and everyone will encourage tolerance and keep thinking not just about yourself but about other around you.

  We have become a nation of babied, entitled brats.  During the depression times were tough and people struggled and suffered but they also banded to together.  They survived in groups and families. Everyone contributing for the greater good.  There was sharing, oh yes they did!  Now everyone gets a trophy just for participating and children don't have to compete or have their feelings hurt.  Life isn't fair but it also isn't bad.  We need to have a tougher skin and stop be offended over everything.  We can't say anything about religion or sex or age or money or politics because someone may become offended, wah, wah, wah.  The time we spend on defense fending offense is wasted. 

  I'm not suggesting that people anyone can completely verbally assassinate you and it's fine.  I'm saying that this country was founded by hardworking rugged diverse people who were free to speak there mind.  Not a bunch of cry babies that have an emotional breakdown if someone says something we don't like.  "I wasn't included", "I don't think she paid enough attention to me", "It was two whole days before they called me back and I had to wait", "My thank you card was so long in coming and wasn't very personal".  Just stop.  You don't need to be stroked like a cat.  Tend your garden, be thankful!!!! When you are thankful you are full not empty and needy and wait for someone, everyone to kiss it and make it better.  Drop and give me fifty, right now come up with fifty positve things and then tell me what difference it makes if a thank you card is late or if it comes at all.  Manners are great, but really did you give just for the praise and thank you or to extend love? 

  When you give love or with love you get love. When you only give or do for with expectation and need you will come up empty and no one can fill that cup I hate to tell you.  When you are full of need you are a grand canyon of desperation.  What do you suppose that attracts??  Give because it's good to give.  Help because it's the right thing to do.  Take and be thankful for everything that comes your way and stop looking to take offense.  Nothing can offend you unles you let it.  Offense implies you are a victim.  You aren't a victim, you have unlimited capacity for happiness, take that not offense!

 

elle        

Forgiveness Instead Of Anger...

  Forgiveness is the release valve.  When you cannot forgive you are only hurting yourself.  After all if someone has hurt or angered you intentionally and you fester with anger and let it rock your world then you are giving them what they want and you are giving them control.  If it was not intentional then you are wasting your time be angry and upset, all twisted in knots about something they are likely not to be aware of!  

  If you really think about it someone who hurts you intentionally over and over does not belong in your life, never mind your main focus.  And when you rage over someone or something they did you are giving them the floor, silly fool!  We hurt people love sometime let it go! Don't be offended.  I am dedicating a post to that this week because it is so important.  Honestly, most of the time when someone pisses you off they did not mean it. Their perception of the situation or your lack of information or maybe their lack of information has created a misunderstanding that put someone in the position of being hurt or angry. 

  Anger is so debilitating it paralyzes you and distorts your thinking. It raises your blood pressure and screws up your digestion.  It lowers your sex drive and causes pimples and weight gain.  Who or what is that important?!  Let it go....  Sometimes you just have to say "F**k it", you know?  It's up to you what you place priorty and importance on.  

  Get busy, work out, go for a walk, have sex, clean out that nasty closet...read a damn book! be thankful for everything you have.  There's a focal point, not the jerk you work with or your phycotic neighbor!  Hey, my teeth are white, my hair looks great, I make the best brownies around and today no one was hired to piss me off because I decided!

 

elle  

Green Eyed Monster

   Be ever so careful of the monster.  Green eyed or otherwise.  Jealousy, envy and resentment are by far the most lethal to your joy and abundance.  Be aware of how you respond emotionally, honestly inside the secret place where feelings come from, to things, events, gains and losses of those around you.  If you feel jealousy or anger when something good happens to someone else, you attatched negativity to those events happening to them and also to yourself.  Soooo, you have made a mark. winning the lottery is bad, getting a promotion, is bad, finding a great house in a great neighborhood, horrible!  When it happened to someone else these were your feelings so there you go!  Feel joy about good things happening; no matter to whom it may be.  

  Feel good when others prosper!  If you realize that your happy response, a true feeling of "good for you!"  This will put you on the the same frequency as those who have received any kind of good fortune.  If you dislike someone and something bad should occur in their life and you may say "oh, I am so sorry to hear that, it's to bad!"  While inside you're green monster is doing a river dance and making you feel so good about something bad happening, get it?  You are attracting negative events to your life.  You gave such joyful, soulful feelings of joy to a negative event!

  The things that you have positive feelings about, you will attract.  Remember that.  If you want to be on the winning side of anything you have to be on that team. You have to be on that frequency.  Seek people out who may have already attained the things you wish to create in your life and feel for their happiness as though it were your own! 

  It's all about the feelings.  Our emotions have the power to create, keep them on a tight leash.  The way you train yourself to do this is to ask yourself a question...."Is the feeling I have about this situation putting me on the same channel to receive it or avoid it?  What do you what to happen?  Decide soon.  I will tell you this, if you feel envy you obviously want it and you are pushing it away when you attach a negative emotion to someone else receiving it. So, with much love I say "knock it off."  Love is the fly paper of good things, not resentment.  If you see an acquaintance  who ahs put on a few pounds and you feel good about her back fat, get ready to roll! 

 

elle

 

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Walk It Off ...

   There is nothing like a power walk.  It's even better with a friend. Yesterday I walked with my friend, I'll call her Sara for the sake of the story, it's also her name. Anyway I feel great when I walk but I feel like I can go further and faster with a partner. Sara and I are particularly good walking partners because she one of the few who can walk faster than I do and she witches at me if I don't wear sneakers.  I hate sneakers.  I love flip flops.  Clearly, I know a power walk in flip flops is a mistake, I don't care I hate sneakers.  Anyway, if people have auras and I'm told they do, and I could see them, which I don't, I'm guessing Saras' would look a little like fourth of July fireworks.  Lots of color, lots of action.  She has a fiery personality that I enjoy.  She and I are both passionate about our families and try to be our best selves.  As far as I can see, the  only thing we really disagree on is some aspects of religion and sneakers.  Oddly, we are very much on the same plain with many differences.  My husband is a blue collar worker, hers white. My youngest child is thirteen hers is five.  I am fifteen years older but she in a grandmother, I am not.  I get a kick out of her.  

  Here is my dilemma.  We walk and rant, yup that's what we do.  The thing is it feels great, the walking and the ranting.  It's harmless we don't bad mouth anyone and have a good cop, bad cop thing going.  We pull each other up by the boot straps depending on whoever is is in a downward spin that day.  

  The ranting is mostly about frustration, you know, trying to make it all work, finding balance.  I think that venting is a good thing.  But I worry that when we are ranting we are attracting more of the things that frustrate, consume time and shake rattle and roll our nerves. 

  If you have an issue, say, with a child and you continuously talk about the problem with the child then the theory is you are keeping yourself on the frequency of having problems with that child.  You are supposed to discuss the things you love about that child instead. Give the love you have for them your eye not the problem. But that eliminates the ability to blow off steam.  So here's the question if I'm only thinking about, talking about the things I love concerning that child then maybe I feel better and don't need to vent.  But then I worry about denial.  I don't want to stick my head in the sand either.  Can you address, deal, cope and handle without venting.  If gratitude is my best tool is it my only tool?

 

elle    

 

  

 

Am I Being Tested???

  Since I have begun this journey to be the soul conductor in orchestra that is my life.  I have learned many things and some of them I don't like one bit.  I believe heart and soul that our thoughts and our commitment to gratitude are key elements in the level of joy we have present in our lives.  I won't let anything shake that; but I have to tell you I am being tested right now.  Damned if I do, damned if I don't, hence the  image I chose to accompany this post. Yesterday, had a particularly large potential to host a big, fat angry rain cloud for it's entirety.  I turned on my laptop and someone had posted one of those feel good little dittys...it read "when it looks like things are falling apart maybe they actually falling into place."  It turned out to be the words that I needed to hear to stay my course.  The trick is to take the focus off the source of upset and look for any little shred of goodness.  focus on it until you literally well up with joy and happiness.  It takes you from a bad place to a great place and puts in a position to attract more good things, hell maybe even great or unexpected things. 

  Back to the ditty, it occurs to me that my vision for something isn't always going to be the best scenario and I need to acknowledge that great things are coming; in the distance maybe, but they are coming.  I find a lot of people including myself, become kind of paralyzed when they take a hit. They recoil from healthy routines and wallow in unhealthy ones.  It is so obviously stupid I can't imagine why we do it. When I am happy I walk, listen to music and am very good about following a healthy diet.  When challenged I lose interest in these things.

  So we have another plus for gratitude and positve thinking, it's good for your weight and your over all health.  If the guy at the liquors store knows your first name and your neighbors don't you have some work to do!  The adversity I face right now is exceptionally difficult because it concerns my child and that is a big ugly spider on the toilet paper if ever I saw one.  I am scraping and clawing to not sink into an abyss of despair...I am feverishly saying thank you for anything that crosses my mind.  Today I was very happy to dicover a package of disposable razors I did not know I had!  I refuse to stop believing that everything is going to be ok!

 

elle        

 

Murphys Law.....

  If you don't know Murphy's Law, google it...I know it, but I don't want to say it, much less write on a post that would then carry the stain of it.  But I think you know it and I know that as positive as we may try to be there are just some times that negativity oozes in.  Leaving you wonder how it got in!  Somewhere there is a crack or a doubt.  Maybe your thoughts are positive but your not fully believing them and as such are not feeling the joy that should come with the commitment to those thoughts or maybe your being tested.
   I have been tested lately. Two things have happened that I hoped would not.  So the question is; was the hoping it wouldn't happen instead of believing it wouldn't happen provide the crack, the way in? I think so.  My bad....put down the tea , I mean wine or Cosmo. These make things worse not better. Take a nice long walk (this more than fifty feet, just saying).  Find that something good...I find it!  Smile too, even if it feels like it doesn't belong just do it.  YOU'LL FEEL AN IMMEDIATE LIFT.  Believe this set back is temporary and find the silver lining and focus on that.  Imagine the BEST case scenario and focus there.  Feel the good emotions that come from a foreseen great outcome and believe. No crack this time, no panic, no what if. Say " I am Happy" "I am ok, this is a set back that is manageable and I am committing my thoughts to the good things that will come from this.
  How do handle it when you feel you have done all the right things to be on a frequency good and uplifting things and yet something sneaks in???  Please share any uplifting processes that you find work for you....Everything is going to be ok....

elle

Teach Your Children To Live Gratitude...

  

  Teach your children to be thankful, to appreciate things.  Be sure they know that it is a great way to bring more of what they love.  It's your job to start teaching this at a young age so they know from the beginning that they have the power to create. 
 Thoughts are things. Attitude comes from thoughts and the feelings that evolve from them.  They aren't helpless. Their destiny isn't blowing in the wind.

                                          Thank you!  
 

Say thank you for rainy days of gray and sunny days warm and bright

Say thank you to the moon that lights your way at night  

Say thank you for the bed you sleep in, soft blankets and a pillows to lay your head

Say thank you for the books you have and the stories that you have read 

Say thank you for your feet, your toes, your elbows and your knees

Say thank you for your eyes, your nose, and your lips that say please… 

Say thank you for hair, it looks so good like that!

Say thank you when it comes out badly, that you have your hat! 

Say thank you for belly buttons and sweaters with lint

Say thank you for cherries and vanilla with chocolate mint 

Say thank you for your toys, your clothes and socks without a match

Say thank you for the dance you learn, the fly ball that you catch 

Say thank you for your fury dog, your cat, your bird, and croaking frog

Say thank you for guinea pig, your ferret and pollywog 

Say thank you for oceans and breezes and spaces

Say thank you sand that ends up in bad places 

Say thank you for onions and broccoli and peas

Say thank you for pizza and French fries with cheese 

Say thank you for doughnuts and pastry that you like

Say thank you for exercise and go ride your bike! 

Say thank you for birthdays and presents and cake

Say thank you for wishes and plans that you make 

Say thank you for drawing and music that’s cool

Say thank you for buses and learning and school  

Say thank you for beach days and snowballs and leaves

Say thank you for sweatshirts with hoods and long sleeves 

Say thank you for oboes and cymbals and drums

Say thank you for pianos and fingers and thumbs 

Say thank you for elephants, lions and bears

Say thank you for smiles and sneezes and tears 

Say thank you for your sister who fights with your brother

Say thank you for your father, your mom and grandmother 

Say thank you your families for kisses and hugs
 

Say thank you for everything……   
 

           For spinach……for bugs

elle