Monday, October 1, 2012

Cherish The Love You Have....



  Do not get comfortable.  When your new love works and has you both floating on air it's because you are not comfortable.  You are on your best behavior and you know it.  We fall in love with the reflection of ourselves in someone elses eyes.  it's a mirror that reflects back to us the image we would like to see.  Maybe it's an image we never even thought of but we like it it, correction, we love it and we love the person who shows this to us in their eyes.
  "He thinks I'M GORGEOUS!"  He looks at you as if he is starving man and you are a steak and a beer.  It feels good and you think even more of him.  It just would not do to finally have someone see the beauty you have dreamed of being and not give them value or let them go.  It's why conartists can do what they do. 
  "She thinks I superman."  Yup, finally a woman who not only does not reject you but sees a better you than you ever dreamed of.  So you over look her flaws and focus on everything that's good, oh wait, did I good?  I meant great, yes great; in fact amazing.  So begins the process of falling in love.
  So what the hell happens???  Well, you get comfortable and you take this person who out of all the millions of people in the world this you're something.  You take them for granted.  You begin to feel entitled to this adoration and the their personal value drops in your eyes.  Flaws become at first just visable then down right annoying.  This is the beginning of the end.
  You may even think that you can do better.  There may be someone more perfect who will see you are amazing, after all he or see did, so why not?  Because it's a mistake.  Come on the grass is not greener. 
  Keep the love you have and continue to love the love you keep.  Have gratitude everyday for the love and the comfort that you have.  Remember to compliment not criticize.  To support on tear down.  treasure not trash.  Make time not war.  Give grace don't gripe. Do not compete. Do not begome opponenets.
  Forgive, overlook, forgive....love all you can.  Cherish the love you have.  Love is the key word.  I'm not telling you to hang onto an abusive unhealthy relationship. I'm saying real love that has begun to drindle. Be a friend to stay a lover.

elle  

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